If the Other Person Does not Understand, Then What?

Questioner: Some people are such that no matter how well we conduct ourselves with them, yet they do not understand.

Dadashri: When the other person does not understand, then it is certainly your fault. Why is it that you did not come across someone who could understand you? Why is it that the circumstance of meeting this particular person came to you? Every time you have to suffer something, it is as a result of your own fault.

 Questioner: Then am I to understand that my karmas are that way?

Dadashri: Definitely. Without a fault of our own, we do not have to suffer. There is no such person in this world who can give even the slightest amount of pain to you, and if there is someone who gives you pain, then that is indeed your fault. It is not the other person’s fault. He is an apparent doer instrumental in the unfolding of your karma. Therefore, ‘The fault is of the sufferer.’ If a husband and wife are quarreling a lot, but after a while when they go to bed, if we quietly check on them, the wife will be sound asleep while the husband will be tossing and turning sides. From this, we should understand that it is all the husband’s fault since the wife is not suffering at all. Whoever’s fault it is, they suffer. And at that time if the husband is sleeping while the wife stays awake, then you should know that it is the wife’s fault. The fault is of the sufferer. This is a very profound science. The entire world ‘bites’ [blame] only the apparent doer.