Wife is a Counterweight

Questioner: I try very hard to adjust with my wife, but I am not able to do so.

Dadashri: It is all based on your karmic account. When you have crooked threads and a crooked nut, and you try to screw them in straight, how can that work? You wonder, ‘Why are women like this?’ But women are your counterweights. She will be ‘crooked’ to the extent that you are at fault. And that is indeed why ‘we’ have said that everything is vyavasthit, haven’t ‘we’?

Questioner: It seems as if everyone has come to straighten me out.

Dadashri: You should indeed get straightened out. Without becoming straight, the world will not function, will it? How can you become a [good] father if you don’t straighten out? You can become a [good] father if you straighten out. Women are such that they do not change, so we [men] will have to change. They are natural; they are not likely to change.

What is a wife?

Questioner: You tell us.

 Dadashri: A wife is the counterweight of her husband. If that counterweight was not there, then the husband would fall.

 Questioner: I did not understand.

Dadashri: Counterweights are installed in engines, otherwise the engine would break down without these counterweights. In the same way, women are the counterweight of men. With the presence of a wife, he will not fall. Otherwise, he will run around without any purpose. He may be here today, and tomorrow he will be somewhere else. It is because of the wife that he comes home, otherwise would he ever come home?

Questioner: He would not.


 Dadashri: The wife is his counterweight



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