Questioner: Many times, even if I have no desire
to have any abhorrence, yet it arises. What is the reason
behind this?
Dadashri: Who does it happen with?
Questioner: Suppose it happens at times with my husband?
Dadashri: That is not called abhorrence. The love that arises from attraction is always reactionary. So when one becomes irritated, the other person becomes repelled. After becoming repelled, he maintains his distance for a short while and then the love rises again. And when this love stings again, conflict arises, and thereafter love rises once again. Where there is excessive love, interference arises. Wherever any kind of interference is taking place, inwardly those people have love for one another. Only where there is love is there interference. If there is love from the past life, then there is interference. There is excessive love. Otherwise, there would be no interference, would there? This is verily the nature of interference. And what do people say? “Conflict makes our love increase.” But that statement is true. That attraction has indeed arisen from conflict itself. Where there are fewer conflicts, attraction does not exist. Take it for granted that in the home in which a husband and wife have limited conflict, there is limited attraction. Do you understand this?
Questioner : In our daily lives, sometimes a lot of sparks fly due to the ego.
Dadashri : Those sparks do not fly due to the ego. They may appear to be sparks of the ego, but they exist due to sexuality. They do not exist where there is no sexual interaction. When a sexual relationship ends, that entire history will indeed come to an end. So if [a couple] maintains the vow of celibacy for one year, then when I ask them, they reply, “Not a single spark, no bickering, no deception, nothing at all, a standstill!” I do ask them. I know that it will turn out this way. So it is due to sexual interactions.
Questioner: Before, we used to think that these conflicts were related to our household work. The conflicts would continue despite helping out in the housework.
Dadashri: All those clashes will arise. As long as this sexual relation continues, conflict will arise. This is indeed the root of conflict. No one can conquer the one who conquers sexuality, no one can even challenge such a person. Such a person has an aura of influence.
Dadashri: Who does it happen with?
Questioner: Suppose it happens at times with my husband?
Dadashri: That is not called abhorrence. The love that arises from attraction is always reactionary. So when one becomes irritated, the other person becomes repelled. After becoming repelled, he maintains his distance for a short while and then the love rises again. And when this love stings again, conflict arises, and thereafter love rises once again. Where there is excessive love, interference arises. Wherever any kind of interference is taking place, inwardly those people have love for one another. Only where there is love is there interference. If there is love from the past life, then there is interference. There is excessive love. Otherwise, there would be no interference, would there? This is verily the nature of interference. And what do people say? “Conflict makes our love increase.” But that statement is true. That attraction has indeed arisen from conflict itself. Where there are fewer conflicts, attraction does not exist. Take it for granted that in the home in which a husband and wife have limited conflict, there is limited attraction. Do you understand this?
Questioner : In our daily lives, sometimes a lot of sparks fly due to the ego.
Dadashri : Those sparks do not fly due to the ego. They may appear to be sparks of the ego, but they exist due to sexuality. They do not exist where there is no sexual interaction. When a sexual relationship ends, that entire history will indeed come to an end. So if [a couple] maintains the vow of celibacy for one year, then when I ask them, they reply, “Not a single spark, no bickering, no deception, nothing at all, a standstill!” I do ask them. I know that it will turn out this way. So it is due to sexual interactions.
Questioner: Before, we used to think that these conflicts were related to our household work. The conflicts would continue despite helping out in the housework.
Dadashri: All those clashes will arise. As long as this sexual relation continues, conflict will arise. This is indeed the root of conflict. No one can conquer the one who conquers sexuality, no one can even challenge such a person. Such a person has an aura of influence.
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