A man once told me, “Dada, in the home, my wife
does this and does that.” Then I told him, “If you were to
ask your wife, what would she say? She would say, “My
husband has no sense.” So, why are you looking for justice
for yourself alone in this?’ So he said, “My household is
ruined. My children are spoilt; my wife is spoilt.” So, I said to him, “Nothing has been ruined. You do not know
how to perceive it. You should know how to perceive your
own household. You should be able to know the prakruti
(gross characteristics of the non-Self complex) of everyone
in the home.”
So why is it that one is not able to take adjustments
at home? There are many people in the family, and one is
not able to get along with everyone. Then interference
happens in the setting of the yogurt [there will be disturbance
in amicable family relations]! Why is that? The nature of
human beings is not just of one kind. People’s nature
becomes as per the era. In Satyug, everyone lives in unison.
Even if there were a hundred people in the home, they
would all follow what the grandfather says. While in Kaliyug,
if the grandfather says something, they would hurl abuses
back at him. If the father were to say anything, they would
hurl abuses back at him as well.
Now, human beings are just humans, but you do not
know how to recognize them. There may be fifty people
in the home, but because you do not know how to recognize
them, interference continues to happen. Should you not
recognize them? If a person in the house continues to nag,
then that is indeed his nature. Therefore, once and for all,
you should understand that this person is like this. Are you
able to recognize for sure that this person is just like this?
Then, is there actually a need to inquire again? Once you
recognize it, you no longer have to inquire further. Some
people have a habit of sleeping late, and some people have
the habit of going to bed early, so how can the two get
along? Now, they all live together as a family, so what is
bound to happen then? There would be one person in the
home who would say, “You do not have much sense.” So,
you should recognize that, “He is indeed going to talk this way.” Hence, you should adjust. Instead, if you were
to answer him back, then you would become tired. That is
because he ‘collided’ with you, but if you also collide with
him, then it simply proves that you do not have eyes either!
What I am saying is that you should understand the science
of prakruti. However, the Self is a different matter.
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