One day the yogurt soup was good, but a bit salty. I
thought to myself, ‘This is salty but I will indeed have to
eat a little, won’t I?’ So, as soon as Hiraba [Dadashri’s
wife] went inside, I poured a little water in it. She caught
that and asked me, “What have you done?” I told her, “You
add water to it when it is on the stove, and I added it here.”
She replied, “I would have added water and then boiled it
for you.” I told her, “For me, it is all considered boiled. I
am only concerned with the final outcome!”
If you tell me at 11 o’clock, “You will have to eat your
lunch,” I would ask you, “Would it be okay if I eat a little
later?” If you say, “No, eat right now so that I can wind up,”
then I will immediately sit down to eat. I will adjust to you. Eat whatever comes on your plate. That which comes
in front of you is a circumstance and the Lord has said that
if you push away that circumstance, that push will hit you!
That is why, if there are things that I do not particularly
care to eat on my plate, I will eat some of them anyway.
If I do not eat them, then there will be a problem with two
entities. One, with the person who brought it, who cooked
the food, a problem will arise with them; they will feel
contemptuous rejection. And the other, with the food item
itself. The food item will protest, “What fault have I done?
I am being offered to you, so why are you insulting me?
Take as much as you want, but do not insult me!” Should
you not show some respect to it? If someone gives me
something that I do not like, even then I will respect it.
This is because, to begin with, the food that is offered to
you does not come easily, so when you get it, you should
give it respect. When the food item is offered and you find
fault in it, does your happiness increase or decrease? You
should not engage in business that reduces your happiness,
should you? Many times, when there is a vegetable I do not
like, I eat it, and then I even say, “Today’s vegetable was
very nice.” Oh, many times when there was no sugar in the
tea, even then I have not said anything. So people say, “If
you do this, then everything in the home will become spoiled.”
I tell them, “Just wait and see tomorrow!” Then, the next
day, she says, “There was no sugar in the tea yesterday. Why
didn’t you say anything to me?” I tell her, “What is the need
for me to say anything? You will find out, won’t you? If
you did not drink tea, then I would need to tell you. You
drink it, so what is the need for me to tell you?”
Questioner: But there is so much awareness one has to maintain moment-to-moment!
Dadashri: Every moment, awareness twenty-four hours a day, thereafter this Gnan began. This Gnan did not manifest just like that! So, I had taken all these adjustments from the beginning to avoid as many conflicts as possible. One day I went for a bath, but the tumbler had not been placed. How am I a Gnani if I do not adjust? So I adjusted. I dipped my hand in, and the water was very hot. I turned on the cold-water tap, but the tank was empty. So, slowly and carefully, I cupped the water in my hands, cooled it, and took a bath. All the mahatmas were saying, “Today Dada is taking a long time to bathe.” What could I do? I had to wait until the water had cooled down, didn’t I? I never tell anyone, “Bring me this, and bring me that.” I adjust. To adjust is indeed a moral duty. In this world, the adjustments of ‘plus-minus’ are required. Where there is a minus, plus [neutralize] it, and where there is a plus, minus [neutralize] it. If someone were to call ‘our’ wisdom madness, then I would tell him, “Yes, that is correct.” I would immediately minus it. Therefore, if one does not know how to adjust, then how can he be considered a man? A home will not have any conflicts if adjustments are made according to the circumstances. I, too, kept adjusting to Hiraba. If you want to enjoy the benefit of your wife’s company, you should adjust. Otherwise, you will not benefit in any way, and vengeance bound is an additive on top of that! This is because every living being is independent and has come to seek happiness. He has not come to give others happiness. So now, instead of happiness, if he receives pain, then he will bind vengeance, regardless of whether it is his wife or his son.
Questioner: One comes seeking happiness but receives pain instead; is that why he binds vengeance?
Dadashri: Yes, and then it does not matter whetherit is his brother or his father, from within he will bind vengeance. Such is this world; it just binds vengeance! When One is in His Swadharma, vengeance does not arise towards anyone. In each individual’s life, there should indeed be some principles. Nevertheless, one should conduct himself according to circumstances. One who adjusts to circumstances is considered a man. If one knows how to adjust in every situation, then one is able to reach all the way to liberation; that is how tremendous this tool is. This Dada [Gnani Purush] is meticulous, frugal, generous, and yet completely adjustable as well. He is very generous, yet completely adjustable. Generous when it comes to others, frugal when it comes to myself, meticulous when it comes to preaching. So, people notice ‘our’ meticulous dealings. My economy [thrift] is adjustable and topmost. I even economize when using water. The attributes of ‘our’ prakruti are versatile.
Questioner: But there is so much awareness one has to maintain moment-to-moment!
Dadashri: Every moment, awareness twenty-four hours a day, thereafter this Gnan began. This Gnan did not manifest just like that! So, I had taken all these adjustments from the beginning to avoid as many conflicts as possible. One day I went for a bath, but the tumbler had not been placed. How am I a Gnani if I do not adjust? So I adjusted. I dipped my hand in, and the water was very hot. I turned on the cold-water tap, but the tank was empty. So, slowly and carefully, I cupped the water in my hands, cooled it, and took a bath. All the mahatmas were saying, “Today Dada is taking a long time to bathe.” What could I do? I had to wait until the water had cooled down, didn’t I? I never tell anyone, “Bring me this, and bring me that.” I adjust. To adjust is indeed a moral duty. In this world, the adjustments of ‘plus-minus’ are required. Where there is a minus, plus [neutralize] it, and where there is a plus, minus [neutralize] it. If someone were to call ‘our’ wisdom madness, then I would tell him, “Yes, that is correct.” I would immediately minus it. Therefore, if one does not know how to adjust, then how can he be considered a man? A home will not have any conflicts if adjustments are made according to the circumstances. I, too, kept adjusting to Hiraba. If you want to enjoy the benefit of your wife’s company, you should adjust. Otherwise, you will not benefit in any way, and vengeance bound is an additive on top of that! This is because every living being is independent and has come to seek happiness. He has not come to give others happiness. So now, instead of happiness, if he receives pain, then he will bind vengeance, regardless of whether it is his wife or his son.
Questioner: One comes seeking happiness but receives pain instead; is that why he binds vengeance?
Dadashri: Yes, and then it does not matter whetherit is his brother or his father, from within he will bind vengeance. Such is this world; it just binds vengeance! When One is in His Swadharma, vengeance does not arise towards anyone. In each individual’s life, there should indeed be some principles. Nevertheless, one should conduct himself according to circumstances. One who adjusts to circumstances is considered a man. If one knows how to adjust in every situation, then one is able to reach all the way to liberation; that is how tremendous this tool is. This Dada [Gnani Purush] is meticulous, frugal, generous, and yet completely adjustable as well. He is very generous, yet completely adjustable. Generous when it comes to others, frugal when it comes to myself, meticulous when it comes to preaching. So, people notice ‘our’ meticulous dealings. My economy [thrift] is adjustable and topmost. I even economize when using water. The attributes of ‘our’ prakruti are versatile.
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