Questioner: In life, clashes arise because people’s
natures do not match, isn’t it?
Dadashri: The fact that clashes arise is itself known as worldly life!
Questioner: What is the cause behind clashes?
Dadashri: Ignorance. As long as division due to difference of opinions arises with anyone, that is a sign of your weakness. People are not wrong. In division due to difference of opinion, the fault is yours. People are not at fault at all. If someone is doing something deliberately, then there you should ask for forgiveness by saying, “Brother, I do not understand this.” Nevertheless, people are not at fault. People are not such that they would create division due to difference in opinion. Where clash arises, the fault is indeed yours.
Questioner: If I want to avoid clashes, then even if a pole is standing in the middle of the way, I should go around it. But what should I do if the pole itself falls on top of me?
Dadashri: When it falls, you should move out of the way .
Questioner: No matter how much I try to move out of the way, even then the pole ends up hurting me. For example, my wife clashes [with me].
Dadashri: Figure out what you should do when she clashes.
Questioner: When the other person insults me and I feel insulted, is it because of my ego?
Dadashri: Truly speaking, when the other person insults you, he is dissolving your ego, and that too, it is the ‘dramatic’ [discharging] ego! Whatever amount of excess ego there is, that dissolves. What loss is there in that? These karma are not allowing you to become free. If there is a small child in front of us, even then we should say, “Now, set me free.”
Dadashri: The fact that clashes arise is itself known as worldly life!
Questioner: What is the cause behind clashes?
Dadashri: Ignorance. As long as division due to difference of opinions arises with anyone, that is a sign of your weakness. People are not wrong. In division due to difference of opinion, the fault is yours. People are not at fault at all. If someone is doing something deliberately, then there you should ask for forgiveness by saying, “Brother, I do not understand this.” Nevertheless, people are not at fault. People are not such that they would create division due to difference in opinion. Where clash arises, the fault is indeed yours.
Questioner: If I want to avoid clashes, then even if a pole is standing in the middle of the way, I should go around it. But what should I do if the pole itself falls on top of me?
Dadashri: When it falls, you should move out of the way .
Questioner: No matter how much I try to move out of the way, even then the pole ends up hurting me. For example, my wife clashes [with me].
Dadashri: Figure out what you should do when she clashes.
Questioner: When the other person insults me and I feel insulted, is it because of my ego?
Dadashri: Truly speaking, when the other person insults you, he is dissolving your ego, and that too, it is the ‘dramatic’ [discharging] ego! Whatever amount of excess ego there is, that dissolves. What loss is there in that? These karma are not allowing you to become free. If there is a small child in front of us, even then we should say, “Now, set me free.”
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