One night, the wife says, “Will you not buy me that
saree? You will have to buy me that saree.” When he asks her, “What was the price of the saree you saw?” she says,
“2,200 rupees, not much.” Then he replies, “You say only
2,200, but where can I get such money right now? Right
now I have a deficit. I would buy it for you if it were for
200-300, but you say it is for 2,200!” So, she gets upset
and begins to sulk. Now what kind of state arises? He even
thinks in his mind, ‘It would have been better if had I
never gotten married!’ What good does it do to regret
getting married? Hence, such are the miseries.
Questioner: Are you saying that the wife should be given the 2,200 rupees saree?
Dadashri: To buy it or not depends upon you. If she sulks and every night says, “I will not cook,” then what will you do? From where will you get a cook? So you will have to buy it even if you have to borrow the money, will you not? You should make the situation such that she, herself, would not want to buy the saree. Suppose you earn 8,000 rupees a month, you should keep 1,000 rupees for your expenses. Would she be likely to ask, “Will you buy the saree for me?” if you were to give the remaining 7,000 rupees to her? On the contrary, you can even jest with her, “That saree is nice, why don’t you buy it?” She has to manage it! But actually, she pressures you when you are the one managing [the finances]. I learnt this art before I attained Gnan. Thereafter, I became a Gnani. I attained Gnan after I discovered this art! Now tell me, it’s because one doesn’t have this art that all these miseries exist, don’t they? What do you think?
Questioner: Yes, that is correct.
Dadashri: Did you understand this? The fault is indeed all yours, isn’t it! It is because you don’t have this art, isn’t it! You need to learn this art.
Questioner: Are you saying that the wife should be given the 2,200 rupees saree?
Dadashri: To buy it or not depends upon you. If she sulks and every night says, “I will not cook,” then what will you do? From where will you get a cook? So you will have to buy it even if you have to borrow the money, will you not? You should make the situation such that she, herself, would not want to buy the saree. Suppose you earn 8,000 rupees a month, you should keep 1,000 rupees for your expenses. Would she be likely to ask, “Will you buy the saree for me?” if you were to give the remaining 7,000 rupees to her? On the contrary, you can even jest with her, “That saree is nice, why don’t you buy it?” She has to manage it! But actually, she pressures you when you are the one managing [the finances]. I learnt this art before I attained Gnan. Thereafter, I became a Gnani. I attained Gnan after I discovered this art! Now tell me, it’s because one doesn’t have this art that all these miseries exist, don’t they? What do you think?
Questioner: Yes, that is correct.
Dadashri: Did you understand this? The fault is indeed all yours, isn’t it! It is because you don’t have this art, isn’t it! You need to learn this art.
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