Questioner: Oftentimes it happens that I have to
adjust with two people at the same time, over the same
issue. Then, at that time, how can I manage everything?
Dadashri: You can take it [the adjustment] with both. Oh, if you had to take it with seven people, you would still be able to take it. If one of them asks, “What did you plan for me?” Then you would answer, “Yes, I will do as you said.” You should say the same to the other person, “I will do as you say.” Nothing is going to happen outside of vyavasthit. Therefore, any which way, do not start a quarrel. Adjustment is the key. With ‘yes’ there is freedom. Even if you say ‘yes’ to someone, nothing is going to happen outside of vyavasthit. But if you say no, then you invite a lot of problems! If a husband and wife both make a firm resolve that, ‘I want to adjust,’ then both will find a solution. If he or she insists a lot, then you should adjust, and you will have the solution. One man’s arm was hurting but he did not tell anyone else. He adjusted by massaging it with his other hand! When you adjust in this way, you will find a solution. If you do not adjust everywhere, everyone will go mad. It is because you have kept harassing others that you have gone mad. If you provoke a dog once, twice, or even thrice, it will maintain your reputation, but if you keep provoking it, then it will bite you. Even the dog will come to realize that the one who provokes daily is worthless, is shameless. This is worth understanding. Do not create any problems, adjust everywhere. The one who has learnt the art of adjustment, has turned from the world and onto the path of liberation (moksha). When an adjustment is made, that is considered Gnan. The one who has learned to take adjustments has sailed free. You are bound to suffer whatever suffering comes your way, but the person who has learnt to take adjustments will not have any problems; the accounts will become clear. If you encounter a robber and you ‘disadjust’, then he will beat you. Instead, you should decide that, ‘I want to adjust and get my work done.’ Then you can ask him, “Sir, what is your wish? Look here, I have set out on a pilgrimage.” You have adjusted to him. When your wife has cooked a meal, it is a blunder to find fault with it. You cannot find such faults. You talk as if you do not make mistakes! How to adjust? Adjustments should be made. Should you not take adjustments with the one you have to spend the rest of your life with? If someone is hurt by you, then how can you call that the religion of Lord Mahavir? And family members should not be hurt whatsoever.
Dadashri: You can take it [the adjustment] with both. Oh, if you had to take it with seven people, you would still be able to take it. If one of them asks, “What did you plan for me?” Then you would answer, “Yes, I will do as you said.” You should say the same to the other person, “I will do as you say.” Nothing is going to happen outside of vyavasthit. Therefore, any which way, do not start a quarrel. Adjustment is the key. With ‘yes’ there is freedom. Even if you say ‘yes’ to someone, nothing is going to happen outside of vyavasthit. But if you say no, then you invite a lot of problems! If a husband and wife both make a firm resolve that, ‘I want to adjust,’ then both will find a solution. If he or she insists a lot, then you should adjust, and you will have the solution. One man’s arm was hurting but he did not tell anyone else. He adjusted by massaging it with his other hand! When you adjust in this way, you will find a solution. If you do not adjust everywhere, everyone will go mad. It is because you have kept harassing others that you have gone mad. If you provoke a dog once, twice, or even thrice, it will maintain your reputation, but if you keep provoking it, then it will bite you. Even the dog will come to realize that the one who provokes daily is worthless, is shameless. This is worth understanding. Do not create any problems, adjust everywhere. The one who has learnt the art of adjustment, has turned from the world and onto the path of liberation (moksha). When an adjustment is made, that is considered Gnan. The one who has learned to take adjustments has sailed free. You are bound to suffer whatever suffering comes your way, but the person who has learnt to take adjustments will not have any problems; the accounts will become clear. If you encounter a robber and you ‘disadjust’, then he will beat you. Instead, you should decide that, ‘I want to adjust and get my work done.’ Then you can ask him, “Sir, what is your wish? Look here, I have set out on a pilgrimage.” You have adjusted to him. When your wife has cooked a meal, it is a blunder to find fault with it. You cannot find such faults. You talk as if you do not make mistakes! How to adjust? Adjustments should be made. Should you not take adjustments with the one you have to spend the rest of your life with? If someone is hurt by you, then how can you call that the religion of Lord Mahavir? And family members should not be hurt whatsoever.
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