Questioner: I have to interact in the world, so
adjustments should not be only one-sided, should they?
Dadashri: [Ideal] Worldly interactions are referred to those in which one adjusts such that even the neighbors proclaim, “Every household has disputes, but this household does not have any disputes.” Such a person’s worldly interactions are considered the best. It is indeed with those whom you do not get along with, that you need to develop the strength [to adjust]. With those that you get along with, the strength already exists there. To not get along is actually a weakness. Why do I get along with everyone? Strength increases and weaknesses break according to the number of adjustments one takes. Real understanding will only set in once all wrong understanding is locked out. Everyone adjusts with people who are soft, but when one is able to adjust with obstinate, strong, strict, and all other sorts of people, that is when his work will be accomplished! No matter how unscrupulous a person may be, if you know how to adjust without losing your cool, then that is what is useful! It will not do if you get upset. Nothing in this world will ‘fit’ [adjust] to you. However, if you ‘fit’ to it, then this world is good; otherwise if you make it ‘fit’ to you, then this world will be obstinate. So, adjust everywhere. If you ‘fit’ to it, then there is no problem.
Dadashri: [Ideal] Worldly interactions are referred to those in which one adjusts such that even the neighbors proclaim, “Every household has disputes, but this household does not have any disputes.” Such a person’s worldly interactions are considered the best. It is indeed with those whom you do not get along with, that you need to develop the strength [to adjust]. With those that you get along with, the strength already exists there. To not get along is actually a weakness. Why do I get along with everyone? Strength increases and weaknesses break according to the number of adjustments one takes. Real understanding will only set in once all wrong understanding is locked out. Everyone adjusts with people who are soft, but when one is able to adjust with obstinate, strong, strict, and all other sorts of people, that is when his work will be accomplished! No matter how unscrupulous a person may be, if you know how to adjust without losing your cool, then that is what is useful! It will not do if you get upset. Nothing in this world will ‘fit’ [adjust] to you. However, if you ‘fit’ to it, then this world is good; otherwise if you make it ‘fit’ to you, then this world will be obstinate. So, adjust everywhere. If you ‘fit’ to it, then there is no problem.
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