Questioner: I do not want to clash, but what should
I do if the other person comes and starts a fight?
Dadashri: If you were to fight with this wall, how long would you be able to fight? If you hit your head against this wall one day, then what would you do with it? You hit your head, meaning you had a fight with the wall, so does that mean you should keep hitting the wall? Similarly, those who instigate a lot of clashes are all walls! Why look at others in this? You should understand on your own that they are like walls. There is no problem thereafter.
Questioner: If I remain silent, then the other person takes it the wrong way thinking, ‘He is certainly at fault,’ and he ends up clashing even more.
Dadashri: In fact, you are presuming that, ‘It is because I remained silent that this happened.’ If a person wakes up in the middle of the night and on his way to the bathroom, he ends up bumping into the wall in the dark, is it because he remained silent that he collided?
It does not matter whether you remain silent or speak, these things are not connected. There is no such thing as the other person becoming affected by you remaining silent, nor is there such a thing as the other person becoming affected by you saying something. It is only scientific circumstantial evidence. No one has even the slightest of authority. What is anyone going to do in a world that is without even the slightest of authority? If the wall had any authority, then this person would have authority! Does this wall have the authority to scold you? The same applies for the other person. And the clash that is going to happen through his nimit (an apparent doer who is simply instrumental in the process of unfolding karma) will not refrain from happening. What is the point in needlessly screaming and shouting? The other person possesses no authority in that! So why don’t you become like a wall! If you keep scolding your wife, then the God that resides within her takes note, ‘He is scolding me!’ And when she scolds you, become like a wall, then the God residing within you will help you.
Therefore, it is only when it is your fault that the wall collides with you. It is not the wall’s fault. So people ask me, “Are all these people walls then?” I tell them, “Yes, people too are walls indeed.” I say this having Seen it. This is not baseless.
To have divisiveness due to difference of opinion with someone and to collide into a wall are one and the same, there is no difference between the two. A person bumps into a wall because he cannot see and divisiveness due to difference of opinion also arises when one cannot see. He cannot see beyond [the situation]. He is not able to come up with a solution beyond this, so divisiveness due to difference of opinion arises. All this anger-pride-deceit-greed arises due to the inability to see what lies beyond! Shouldn’t we understand this point? The fault is of the one who gets hurt; is the wall really at fault? So everything in this world is indeed a wall. When we bump into a wall, we do not set out to establish who was right and who was wrong, do we? We do not go through the trouble of fighting with it that, ‘I am right,’ do we? In the same way, right now this [person] is indeed in the state of a wall. There is no need whatsoever to prove to the person that you were right.
You should consider anyone who collides to be a wall. Then if you set out to investigate where the door is, you will find the door even in the dark. If you move ahead while moving your hand like this, then would you not find the door? And you should make your escape from there. You should make it a rule to not clash with anyone, that you do not want to get into clashes with anyone.
Dadashri: If you were to fight with this wall, how long would you be able to fight? If you hit your head against this wall one day, then what would you do with it? You hit your head, meaning you had a fight with the wall, so does that mean you should keep hitting the wall? Similarly, those who instigate a lot of clashes are all walls! Why look at others in this? You should understand on your own that they are like walls. There is no problem thereafter.
Questioner: If I remain silent, then the other person takes it the wrong way thinking, ‘He is certainly at fault,’ and he ends up clashing even more.
Dadashri: In fact, you are presuming that, ‘It is because I remained silent that this happened.’ If a person wakes up in the middle of the night and on his way to the bathroom, he ends up bumping into the wall in the dark, is it because he remained silent that he collided?
It does not matter whether you remain silent or speak, these things are not connected. There is no such thing as the other person becoming affected by you remaining silent, nor is there such a thing as the other person becoming affected by you saying something. It is only scientific circumstantial evidence. No one has even the slightest of authority. What is anyone going to do in a world that is without even the slightest of authority? If the wall had any authority, then this person would have authority! Does this wall have the authority to scold you? The same applies for the other person. And the clash that is going to happen through his nimit (an apparent doer who is simply instrumental in the process of unfolding karma) will not refrain from happening. What is the point in needlessly screaming and shouting? The other person possesses no authority in that! So why don’t you become like a wall! If you keep scolding your wife, then the God that resides within her takes note, ‘He is scolding me!’ And when she scolds you, become like a wall, then the God residing within you will help you.
Therefore, it is only when it is your fault that the wall collides with you. It is not the wall’s fault. So people ask me, “Are all these people walls then?” I tell them, “Yes, people too are walls indeed.” I say this having Seen it. This is not baseless.
To have divisiveness due to difference of opinion with someone and to collide into a wall are one and the same, there is no difference between the two. A person bumps into a wall because he cannot see and divisiveness due to difference of opinion also arises when one cannot see. He cannot see beyond [the situation]. He is not able to come up with a solution beyond this, so divisiveness due to difference of opinion arises. All this anger-pride-deceit-greed arises due to the inability to see what lies beyond! Shouldn’t we understand this point? The fault is of the one who gets hurt; is the wall really at fault? So everything in this world is indeed a wall. When we bump into a wall, we do not set out to establish who was right and who was wrong, do we? We do not go through the trouble of fighting with it that, ‘I am right,’ do we? In the same way, right now this [person] is indeed in the state of a wall. There is no need whatsoever to prove to the person that you were right.
You should consider anyone who collides to be a wall. Then if you set out to investigate where the door is, you will find the door even in the dark. If you move ahead while moving your hand like this, then would you not find the door? And you should make your escape from there. You should make it a rule to not clash with anyone, that you do not want to get into clashes with anyone.
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